Words to build by!

Do not be discouraged at your humaness, and do not fear change or lessons learned. There will always be those who tear down, build anyway. There will always be those who take, give more anyway. Know that you are meant to be here, learn from imperfect moments and enjoy this life--focus on what you want to see and soon you will. Facebook post September 18th

All to often we let our mistakes define us more than our successes. We forget that it took hundreds of attempts before the first commercially produced light bulbs were available. We barely remember that safety on automobiles was an afterthought. Then of course many might have only seen a phone that hangs on a wall in a museum.



Those ideas of today that seem to come out every day are a culmination of the human spirit and creative juices allowed to run wonderfully rampant. I don't hear "it won't work" much anymore, not that it isn't said--I just don't hear it.



We as a progressive human expression of creative life have embraced change at a whole new level. Builders and designers and inventors are finding ways to make our lives better, more connected and more fun each and every day.



But they are also working towards embracing those moments of humaness to add a gentleness to our society. We, and I mean each of WE are not perfect. We cannot plan the errors out of our days, but we can learn from them. We cannot find a perfect employee, because there is no such animal. We cannot locate the patner without flaws, because we are all still very human.



But what we can do is to teach our children to embrace the human mistakes as opportunities to express their creative problem solving skills. And when the problem is solved, we can also help them embrace the art of forgiveness. Learning first to forgive themselves and then passing that gift off to others will change their reality more than any financial windfall. Learning how to be a graceful human will not only give their spirit a lesson in life...it will assure that their life expressions will be a gift to others all through out their lifetime.



Now when I say forgiveness of others most human moments, I do not mean to give abusers or users free reign in their reality. I mean being able to acknowledge that most mistakes and missteps are merely that. But when someones trampling of your daily life is habitual, it is time to allow that relationship to have a closing, that is also ushered on with forgiveness.



Forgiveness is a gift, most of all to the one who gives it. Because in releasing those angered feelings and moments of contempt for wrongs real or implied, allows the victim to become a victor. It shows that you are willing to move past the past and heal yourself, regardless of the pain. It also assures that you will always be moving forward. Harboring anger for big or even the smallest of mistakes is like taking poisin expecting it to make the person you are angry with sick. Most people who go about their lives creating harm, or dumping their mistakes on others are living such a selfish life that the impact to their feelings is non-existant no matter how angry you may be.



So as you are busy creating your life, allow a building of knowledge, of things, or of projects. Embrace the building of relationships, businesses, and lives. But also take a lesson in building bridges across those moments that seperate us. Those moments of "wish I had done better, but let me fix it now" and "wish you no harm because it was your turn to be human". We are building the world we will all live in....physically, emotionally and forgivingly!!

Thre are moments in life...

where you feel safe enough to just be, when you know the reason for struggles, and you feel an utter sense of grace....they need a check in button for that place!!! Its a great spot--been there a few times, most recently as now!! (facebook post 8-30-2011)

Two years ago I met a friend. She tells me often how great a friend I am to her. She is the type of friend that I can see her every day, or once a month and the emotion is the same. We have fun, laugh, act crazy and just generally have a freaking amazing time.



The first night we met was one of those moments of grace. I knew somehow our lives were going to be focusing on this first nigt. I knew that some part of the future was hinged around the conversation at that table when it seemed like no one else was in the room.



I have the utmost respect for her talents, her story, her life. I have the kowledge that no matter where I go or what happens in my life, she will be there...just a phone call away. She is a true friend. I can say anything, everything or nothing and the feeling is the same.



I do not fear that one day I will wake up and she will be setting about to undo me, that she will be working on taking something away. Every time she is in my physical presence it is an act of making my life better.

Her story which I won't tell much of here, is much like many of ours. There is joy, harship, pain and grief. There are children and jobs and family members driving her crazy all the while validating her existence. There are fights, wins and losses. And there are the moments in life....where she has been able to just be.



Two years ago when she and I met, I set myself on a mission to help her make her goal a reality. I have struggled, begged, pleaded and forced moments trying to make it happen. I have given her my ideas and suggestions and reached out to those I thought would be able to help. I have prayed and tried to find a WAY to make it work.

But only moments...no great success...just ticks on the clock and the return to just doing the next thing.



As the days have passed by and other people have come into my life, I began to see parts of the puzzle coming together, and I have often thought I will know. I will see a moment of clarity when all the pieces will be sitting at the table together and we as a great cohesive force will move the dream into the next realm of possibility. It just so happens that the table was round. And that 8 pieces of the puzzle that night were there. I soon began to understand that the reason things had not come together is because I didn't have all the pieces or even the right ones. I had to let some go, send some away and go and get new ones.And even though some of those original pieces are missing from time to time, the puzzle can still be whole.



The most amazing part of this story is this....we are all connected. We as a wonderful mass of human experience are all living moments when we can choose to participate, or be upset because it is someone elses story. We will have the priveledge to witness the great creative forces moving mountains to make the puzzle whole. There will be a recognition that all the visualizing and all the hopes and all the wrong moments have brought you forward to the very second where you are sitting and your puzzle is complete.



And even though you know there is more to you story, a part b, or c or even all the way to z of your puzzle, none of that really matters because you get clarity. You understand that while you may not now nor ever truely know what happened to make all those pieces come together and fit so perfectly, it doesnt give you any pause at all. You are standing in the grace that goes beyond all understanding.