I do not offer you sympathy although I will listen to your woes, I do not have any pity, because I know how the story really goes.
Someone asked me recently how I became so wise, and while I had to think for a minute to understand that someone think me wise, in an instant I knew to say thanks to all those who had given me trials to overcome, lies to realise were untrue and other gifts that most would rather not get. But in the outcome of all those unwanted but accepted hurts, it has taught me to fear no one, but to see each for who they really are. I do not doubt my instincts, but I also know that at each threat I have a choice to give in or continue to live with integrity and faith that all things are to the good. Attack me if you must, but you can never take what is mine. Because when you grab that which you did not create, it is only with you as long as you can learn to hate it and then it is taken from you. I see you, those who would come to take away that which I have created and that you covet. Come and grab all you can...I will create more. Steal away whatever you think you must have. I will not fear your thievery, because I know. I know the laws. I have seen them work over and over again. I can tell you the stories of many who have tried, and yet here I stand. As happy with my life as ever. Not only sure of my place in this world but confident enough in my blessings to even work towards you finding yours. I am excited for the changes that are coming soon, and fast. I am creating this life, writing my story so that each desire becomes part of this reality, until the world is just the place we all want to live, in peace and love and amazing creative energy.
Sometimes I get accused of being mean, and this shocking but still baffeling revelation is something I cannot understand. Our society seems to have embraced this notion that if I feel sympathy and sorrow for others that that will somehow make their battle easier. That lowering my vibrational serenity to live in their creation of woe, will some how lighten their load. I totally understand that while someone is in the throws of the misery, that I cannot say or do anything that will give relief, nor can I become sorroful enough to make them begin to heal. I will embrace empathy for those who are suffering, but I also have been educated on the fact that every situation in our lives, and I mean every one, is meant to be a part of the story which validates our journey here. If it were not so, there would not be any reason for any of this. What is the point if it all ends up in nothing anyway? The driving force of human nature is that we seek happiness, fulftilment, and creation. Whether it be life, money or drama...our creative being thrives on the creation of any of it. Yes even the bad stuff...because it adds to our understanding of the human experience.
Believing that everything has to be perfect for me to be happy is like living life on a treadmill. The limited pace of being able to vary the speed and the unchanging scenery would not only get boring, it would lead us to find a way to stop walking if it meant the treadmill is all we could ever do. Life is sacred, every life. It has value whether it lasts a minute or 100 years. Saying that life must be perfect before it has value is the biggest diservice that can ever be paid. It also sets up the biggest lie every purposed....each life is already perfect. Each and every life that touches mine adds to it just as all the interaction polishes yours. The judgement that we have all learned to live by having our belief that only the good stuff is good and all the bad stuff is bad, has taken away part of the joy-ality that life can be.
If having every material item we long for was the only thing we believe would bring happiness, then how could those who live in abject poverty not have already given up and quit the journey? If being on the list of the richest in the world was the ending of misery, how is that we still hear of people who have millions, fame and more than most will ever see, can still decide to end their trip?
It is because we have not done a great job at educating our fellow travelers on the meaning and purpose of their journey. Tribes and ancient civilizations used to perform coming of age ceremonies and some still do I am sure. These lessons of life, hunting, and other practices were preparing the next generation for the journey. We as Americans have trivialized our understanding to school, college and organized religion. We have forgotten the most important lessons.
We ae all connected-period. We are all creative energy-period. We are all going to check out of this reality with the understanding that someone forgot to share along the way-period. The Ahh-ha moment will reveal the reasons for the journey, the lessons grabbed along the way and the rejoining to the creative universe that awaits our awakening. PERIOD-EXCLAMATION POINT!!!!!
We have been lead to the dumbing down of humans. The trivializtion of our power. The mis-represntation of why we are here, and much more. We have been given busy work while the lessons are being learned, but the outcome is always the same. The reason many say that our lives flash before our eyes as we start the check out process is so that we can see those moments that were given to us to make a cellular change in our consciousness. Stop for a minute and replay your life...do you see those moments? They are probably the same as mine, those pivotal seconds where the life as you know it changed forever---when actually it just changed so that your forever would be right.
I do not share these thoughts so that you can think me crazy, nor do I hope that I will convice you that you are wrong. While there are people who will create and pass through their life by creating wrongs, it is still always the same ending. And it will ultimately be the ending we decide on. There is no wrong way to live this life. Please play however you see fit. Cause harm and damage as you travel along if you so choose. Those who long to see that and are busy creating those paths will welcome you and play along to get their cellular changes as well. Or set about your path creating light and love and peace to all those you pass by. I seek to create and attract those who are like minded, but occassionaly I also understand that my thoughts will allow those in who have less than honorable motives to share my space. When they show up, I can shed the tears of dissappointment, and then head back in my direction and wish them well hanging on to my grade---pass or fail I still get move to the next level.
Sometimes as I write these blogs, I am reminded that I do not always know where the words come from. I am however eternally grateful for those who helped me pull out of the drama that was my life before. I am sure that all those lessons were necessary, but dang was I slow on the learning curve. I held to those beliefs that had been gifted me and I hung tightly. I did not understand that we each get to decide what it is we will get out of this life and that which we will add to it. We can stay with those hand me down understandings and stay tied to a life that someone else believes we should live. We can refuse to look to those moments that could change us on a cellular level or we can just recite the old cliches such as "Life is hard" Life is not fair" "Good guys finsish last" "only the good die Young" bla, blah , blah. Our lives are meant for us to seek the answers, and they are meant for us to enjoy....well actually to enjoy or not but its still our choice.
At the end of the day or the finish of the play, know that it is important to write what you mean, say what you believe and share what you feel. There will always be those who are the journey with you and those who are not. But I wouldn't have it any other way. I love this life and I love most that I have learned my lessons and I can see the real that is in front of me...whether it be the good or bad. Oh and by the way I have stopped labeling it that way too...it just IS what it IS. REAL
Sunday, August 28, 2011
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Saturday, August 20, 2011
Hardest, best, worst and more
Hardest lesson I ever learned, is that the way my life has turned out was all because of me.
Sometimes it is easier to sit and feel sorry for oneself because life is hard, or seems unfair or just any part of the poor me routine. But when I get real honest, and I mean REAL and honest, I can trace back every tough moment to a decision that I made. I can see a lesson in each trial that came my way. I can see where things might have been better had I chosen another path. No one is sitting anywhere in this universe punishing me for anything real or imagined. No one is picking on me because I am not perfect. Nope, there is no way to jusify any of the things that I didn't like in this life other than to recognize I made each and every choice. And while this can be a heavy blow to take, it is also the start to writing a whole new story. It means that if I am responsible, and each time things turn in a direction that isn't exactly what I had hoped for, I can recognize the person in charge and change directions. Most times its just a quieting of those not good enough voices and then recognition for the one to credit or blame and a seeking to understand the lesson.
The worst lesson I ever learned, is that bad people show up because my actions were not inline with my beliefs.
Those who seek to unseat only show up briefly, and only usually play a minor roll of reminding me of the things I do not want. This doesn't mean when those lesson people show up that I am supposed to give them direction or try to fix them. The most amazing part of this education is that when I got this part figured out, the majority of those who show up have the same mission, or are looking for it. They come to co-create the good stuff and help to bring more joy, love and peace to my reality. They are attracted here, because the law of attraction says that which is likened to itself is drawn. When I am feeling out of sorts it is because I have drifted into one of the fear based emotional days and I can recognize and move out of it as fast as I found myself there...or NOT.
Best lesson I have learned, is that the rest of my life is all up to me.
Once I came to the understanding that I get to direct this life and make choices that are about honoring my beliefs, sticking to the path I hope to take and accomplishing those things on my list, it got amazingly easy to get the lessons, good or bad. It became clear and I am able to see those who show up with less than honorable motives. But also accepting responsibility for my life, my joy and my lot, also gives me permission to build on it whatever I choose. As I get my compass headed in my true north, those who wish to be a part of my success show up. They are busy loving and living in their passion, and I can play a part in their fun. They are inspiring and giving freely so that I can gain strength and hope from their success. They are offering me acceptance and love with ease and no requirements except that I be a part of the joy. This life is not meant to be a horrible thing that we survive, it is meant to give us opportunities to attract whatever our heart seeks to experience. When bad stuff shows up, I need only to check my compass, and decide if I was heading in my true north direction or had I drifted off course. Spending a little time to clear my thougths, visit my blog~erapy and redefine my direction is usually all it takes to move past those days.
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If all these lessons are true, and in my life I believe that they are, I must only thank those who showed up to help me "get" them. I accept the responsibility for the lesson and give credit to the one who attracted it (me!). And I move on to the next moment of working towards what I want to see in my life. I can find joy, understanding, hope and a lesson in almost every moment, and most surely in every day. It's not always easy, living in a place where I get all the blame or credit. It's not always fun doing my homework and getting the lesson of the day. But I wouldn't have it any other way. Once I got the lessons that kept showing up, it meant that it was time to move onto another class, a graduation of sorts to a higher understanding. A path that shows me that I have nothing to fear, no one to lose, and everything to accomplish. It brought about a degree in creating that which I want to see in my reality. An ability to instantly forgive and move past any moment that didn't feel like it was honoring my life. It also means that I am no longer a vicitim of anyones malice or that I have nothing or anyone to fear. We get to ride the path we choose and if it ends badly then I have the chance to either choose better next time, or I can just keep doing what I did and keep getting what I got.
I also appreciate getting to see those who are still in the lessons I have already learned phase. They are still working towards getting the lessons in their own life class or not, there is no thing that says anyone has to be on a path of understanding. Life is to be lived at whatever level of consciousness you choose. There is no you got to do it this way or else, free will says that we not only choose the path we choose but also the time we come to understanding. Some seek it in every moment, some jump to the end of the story and try to read the ending first, others just take it a day at a time and will get their lessons one way or another. I love the path of least resistance. I treasure getting to go with the flow and see things for the lessons that they are, good, hard or best. There is no right or wrong, must or must not, no shame or blame. It is all in the education, and the pace we decide to run the race. There is no evil or punisher, we are attracting all that is, whether we belive so or not.
Once I understood that it was always, always, always my fault, choice, credit or blame....it got easier to be in the class and easier to get all A's.
Sometimes it is easier to sit and feel sorry for oneself because life is hard, or seems unfair or just any part of the poor me routine. But when I get real honest, and I mean REAL and honest, I can trace back every tough moment to a decision that I made. I can see a lesson in each trial that came my way. I can see where things might have been better had I chosen another path. No one is sitting anywhere in this universe punishing me for anything real or imagined. No one is picking on me because I am not perfect. Nope, there is no way to jusify any of the things that I didn't like in this life other than to recognize I made each and every choice. And while this can be a heavy blow to take, it is also the start to writing a whole new story. It means that if I am responsible, and each time things turn in a direction that isn't exactly what I had hoped for, I can recognize the person in charge and change directions. Most times its just a quieting of those not good enough voices and then recognition for the one to credit or blame and a seeking to understand the lesson.
The worst lesson I ever learned, is that bad people show up because my actions were not inline with my beliefs.
Those who seek to unseat only show up briefly, and only usually play a minor roll of reminding me of the things I do not want. This doesn't mean when those lesson people show up that I am supposed to give them direction or try to fix them. The most amazing part of this education is that when I got this part figured out, the majority of those who show up have the same mission, or are looking for it. They come to co-create the good stuff and help to bring more joy, love and peace to my reality. They are attracted here, because the law of attraction says that which is likened to itself is drawn. When I am feeling out of sorts it is because I have drifted into one of the fear based emotional days and I can recognize and move out of it as fast as I found myself there...or NOT.
Best lesson I have learned, is that the rest of my life is all up to me.
Once I came to the understanding that I get to direct this life and make choices that are about honoring my beliefs, sticking to the path I hope to take and accomplishing those things on my list, it got amazingly easy to get the lessons, good or bad. It became clear and I am able to see those who show up with less than honorable motives. But also accepting responsibility for my life, my joy and my lot, also gives me permission to build on it whatever I choose. As I get my compass headed in my true north, those who wish to be a part of my success show up. They are busy loving and living in their passion, and I can play a part in their fun. They are inspiring and giving freely so that I can gain strength and hope from their success. They are offering me acceptance and love with ease and no requirements except that I be a part of the joy. This life is not meant to be a horrible thing that we survive, it is meant to give us opportunities to attract whatever our heart seeks to experience. When bad stuff shows up, I need only to check my compass, and decide if I was heading in my true north direction or had I drifted off course. Spending a little time to clear my thougths, visit my blog~erapy and redefine my direction is usually all it takes to move past those days.
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If all these lessons are true, and in my life I believe that they are, I must only thank those who showed up to help me "get" them. I accept the responsibility for the lesson and give credit to the one who attracted it (me!). And I move on to the next moment of working towards what I want to see in my life. I can find joy, understanding, hope and a lesson in almost every moment, and most surely in every day. It's not always easy, living in a place where I get all the blame or credit. It's not always fun doing my homework and getting the lesson of the day. But I wouldn't have it any other way. Once I got the lessons that kept showing up, it meant that it was time to move onto another class, a graduation of sorts to a higher understanding. A path that shows me that I have nothing to fear, no one to lose, and everything to accomplish. It brought about a degree in creating that which I want to see in my reality. An ability to instantly forgive and move past any moment that didn't feel like it was honoring my life. It also means that I am no longer a vicitim of anyones malice or that I have nothing or anyone to fear. We get to ride the path we choose and if it ends badly then I have the chance to either choose better next time, or I can just keep doing what I did and keep getting what I got.
I also appreciate getting to see those who are still in the lessons I have already learned phase. They are still working towards getting the lessons in their own life class or not, there is no thing that says anyone has to be on a path of understanding. Life is to be lived at whatever level of consciousness you choose. There is no you got to do it this way or else, free will says that we not only choose the path we choose but also the time we come to understanding. Some seek it in every moment, some jump to the end of the story and try to read the ending first, others just take it a day at a time and will get their lessons one way or another. I love the path of least resistance. I treasure getting to go with the flow and see things for the lessons that they are, good, hard or best. There is no right or wrong, must or must not, no shame or blame. It is all in the education, and the pace we decide to run the race. There is no evil or punisher, we are attracting all that is, whether we belive so or not.
Once I understood that it was always, always, always my fault, choice, credit or blame....it got easier to be in the class and easier to get all A's.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
It's just not good to say "I didn't mean to".
Everything that is happening in this life is all because of one person...ME. I didn't mean to have all the troubles that were plaguing my everyday life. I didn't want to be unhappy 99% of the time. I didn't long to wait for those things that I thought were going to be the magic thing that would make me happy.
The first time I heard thiss message I was instantly enraged with the person who said it. How could I have ever wanted to have all the troubles that were coloring every aspect of my life? And that is when he said that it was not that I wanted it, the fact that I was focusing on all the negatives was the reason they keep showing up. I WAS, AM and ALWAYS WILL BE RESPONSIBLE!!!
If I am choosing to focus on what is wrong in my life, I am inviting more wrong. If I am complaining about all the negative people in my life, I am being negative and inviting more of the same. If I am complaining about anything I am hedging my bets that there will be more to complain about.
I was angry that the person sharing this "self-fulfilling proficy" mumbo jumbo, didn't understand what "I" was going through. But he did. He had the same conversation with someone else in his life and they had shared the secret to being happy. Do you think people who live in abject poverty smile? Do they celebrate birthdays or milestones? Do they get married and work to provide for those they love, even though the odds are they will never move above their station in life? The answer is yes, even those who are suffering in horrible conditions that we cannot even fathom can find a piece of the life they have that is good, worth remembering and full of joy. It's all relative, if all we know is that we are surviving, then surviving can be pretty sweet.
I have often heard it said that when I get this, or find that, or fall into this relationship, joy or whatever that I will be happy. Putting conditions on happiness is the surest way to never find it. Many of those illusive things in our lives are to be attracted not sought after. The law of attraction is pretty simple, but hard to learn. But the basics of it is this. Thoughts become things...so think yourself into that which you want. But don't wait for it to get here, because that will surely keep it away.
I know it is not the traditional education that many of us got in school, nor is it the legacy that many of our parents or other well meaning adults and guides gave us along our way. But I am here to tell you that it works---and there is no work to it. You simply must make a decision each day to try and feel better. As often as you can. Make a game of it...and when you see those real things that have eluded you show up, then it will be the snowball down the hill effect---it will just get bigger and faster and everything will be rolling your way.
For me it started with letting go of my anger, I was so busy blaming others in my life for my sadness, bad luck and misfortune. I had given over the reines and let someone else turn the out of control team of horses barreling me towards the cliff. Even not making a decision or giving the choices to someone else is still making a decision. That is a bitter pill to take...when someone hears that all that they have suffered through is their own fault...it can sting pretty big. But it also means that the rest of the life experience gets better from here.
I started small...reliving those things that caused me the most internal pain and angst. I took it apart piece by piece and labled it all in a manner that showed who was to blame....really at fault for the mess that was my life. In every situation it was me. I had made choices that allowed things into my life that were not really what I wanted. I had focused on bad as more bad showed up. I had not been grateful for the gifts I was given even if they were beyond tiny.
Turning that over was tough...getting to the real of it took many blogs and journal entries. To say I was not always moving forward would be a serious injustice to the process. I had moments twhen I could not even grasp that this whole pointing the finger at me thing was ever going to help. But it did. I began to see each decision that I had made that was based on fear, anger, or any of the other negative emotions had lead to worse feeling and days. I started to get an understanding that my directional map was taking me down others hiways, and had me no where near my own path. I slowly began to recognize that I had a moral compass that was violated almost daily by those who did not even understand let alone believe in the rights and wrongs that I did.
It was a slow process, I am a slow learner. But little by little as I began to make my own decisions, stand for what I BELIEVED in, focus on the good in others and myself and practiced, practiced, practiced the attitude of gratitude....I began to see a new life emerge. The life that I wanted all along. One filled with meaning and purpose. A daily experience that brought the most amazing people into my reality...each and every day. A life where even when things were feeling a bit icky, I could still find the silliest little things to be happy about, grateful for, or content in.
The best part of all is that I can choose to be happy NOW! I can choose to find something almost at every moment to be happy about. I don't have to have all my wants to be experiencing the joy in this life. And when the good stuff shows up, I am less likely to be falling back down into the want of the next thing on the list and more apt to be enjoying the gift of the moment...no matter what has come to be a part of this life.
I find that I can enjoy my friends no matter what we are doing or even if its just doing nothing. I dont have to have an agenda or a plan at every moment to feel fulfilled. I don't have to have all my puzzle pieces on the table before I can believe that the picture will one day come together. I don;t have to have anything, anyone or any more than what I have right now to be completely blissful in the life that is mine.
I dont practice sympathy for myself or others, beccause I understand the attractive component of that emotion as well. I will empathize, but I can never feel sad enough for you to feel better, sick enough for you to be well or damaged enough for you to be healed. I do not have the ability to attract anything to your life, but I can bring my joy. I can't fix your problems but I can tell you that no problem exists unless the answer is already available.
I know it's hard to see this as true. I remember having those moments where I was not sure why I had been born, or even if I wanted to continue the journey. But that thought and many of those others left me years ago, and has yet to ever even make a mention in my daily thought process. I choose to live each moment of the gift, lesson, joy, fun that it is. And if the moments are leaning towards the lessor side of happy, I acknowledge the feeling, but look for something, anything, to feel better about. That is all it takes.
Some examples of finding anything to feel better about include seeing someon having and emotional meltdown and being grateful it wasnt me. Getting headed towards work and being grateful for a green light. Saying Merry Christmas to the road rage driver that I could have just as easily stepped into the rage he was sharing and carried that around for the rest of the day. Forgiving any of those I have attracted that show up to show me who I dont want to be or act like. Grateful for the penny that I find in the parking lot that reminds me the world is an abundant place. The kind people at work, online or even at the grocery store who smile as tell another part of my story.
It doesnt help to be bitter at life, or the situations that you are living. Find some way to see that all the while you have been living on purpose....even if you didn't mean to. Even though you might not understand how all the good, or bad seems to show up....rest assured you can understand it from now on. I have often heard it takes six weeks to change a habit. So give it six weeks, pretend that I am right, that if every day you committ to write down the things you can find to be grateful for, that you take responsibility for your life...every part of it, and you begin to tell the better feeling story, even if it doesn't feel like you can feel better. Just try....send me your journal, tell me your story, share with me even the littlest thing to be grateful for. I will be your sounding board, and your redirector. I will share with you what worked for me to move past a life of negative, blaming misery. If after 6 weeks it's not better, then you can blame me....I will know better ane you will too...but I will take the blame and you can go back to the way it is. But if I am right...and it changes things for the better in your reality, then I charge you with the same task that Tim gave me...pay it forward. Share with others how their life too can be the one that they are creating for the good...it really is that simple, to live on purpose, taking responsibility and attracting joy.
If we decide to live "on purpose" nothing ever just happens to us. We are directing our lives, constructing our futures, creating with our thoughts. It's time to sit down and figure out what my purpose is, and be on purpose in every moment. I am responsible for where my life is, where it will go and where I will end up.
The first time I heard thiss message I was instantly enraged with the person who said it. How could I have ever wanted to have all the troubles that were coloring every aspect of my life? And that is when he said that it was not that I wanted it, the fact that I was focusing on all the negatives was the reason they keep showing up. I WAS, AM and ALWAYS WILL BE RESPONSIBLE!!!
If I am choosing to focus on what is wrong in my life, I am inviting more wrong. If I am complaining about all the negative people in my life, I am being negative and inviting more of the same. If I am complaining about anything I am hedging my bets that there will be more to complain about.
I was angry that the person sharing this "self-fulfilling proficy" mumbo jumbo, didn't understand what "I" was going through. But he did. He had the same conversation with someone else in his life and they had shared the secret to being happy. Do you think people who live in abject poverty smile? Do they celebrate birthdays or milestones? Do they get married and work to provide for those they love, even though the odds are they will never move above their station in life? The answer is yes, even those who are suffering in horrible conditions that we cannot even fathom can find a piece of the life they have that is good, worth remembering and full of joy. It's all relative, if all we know is that we are surviving, then surviving can be pretty sweet.
I have often heard it said that when I get this, or find that, or fall into this relationship, joy or whatever that I will be happy. Putting conditions on happiness is the surest way to never find it. Many of those illusive things in our lives are to be attracted not sought after. The law of attraction is pretty simple, but hard to learn. But the basics of it is this. Thoughts become things...so think yourself into that which you want. But don't wait for it to get here, because that will surely keep it away.
I know it is not the traditional education that many of us got in school, nor is it the legacy that many of our parents or other well meaning adults and guides gave us along our way. But I am here to tell you that it works---and there is no work to it. You simply must make a decision each day to try and feel better. As often as you can. Make a game of it...and when you see those real things that have eluded you show up, then it will be the snowball down the hill effect---it will just get bigger and faster and everything will be rolling your way.
For me it started with letting go of my anger, I was so busy blaming others in my life for my sadness, bad luck and misfortune. I had given over the reines and let someone else turn the out of control team of horses barreling me towards the cliff. Even not making a decision or giving the choices to someone else is still making a decision. That is a bitter pill to take...when someone hears that all that they have suffered through is their own fault...it can sting pretty big. But it also means that the rest of the life experience gets better from here.
I started small...reliving those things that caused me the most internal pain and angst. I took it apart piece by piece and labled it all in a manner that showed who was to blame....really at fault for the mess that was my life. In every situation it was me. I had made choices that allowed things into my life that were not really what I wanted. I had focused on bad as more bad showed up. I had not been grateful for the gifts I was given even if they were beyond tiny.
Turning that over was tough...getting to the real of it took many blogs and journal entries. To say I was not always moving forward would be a serious injustice to the process. I had moments twhen I could not even grasp that this whole pointing the finger at me thing was ever going to help. But it did. I began to see each decision that I had made that was based on fear, anger, or any of the other negative emotions had lead to worse feeling and days. I started to get an understanding that my directional map was taking me down others hiways, and had me no where near my own path. I slowly began to recognize that I had a moral compass that was violated almost daily by those who did not even understand let alone believe in the rights and wrongs that I did.
It was a slow process, I am a slow learner. But little by little as I began to make my own decisions, stand for what I BELIEVED in, focus on the good in others and myself and practiced, practiced, practiced the attitude of gratitude....I began to see a new life emerge. The life that I wanted all along. One filled with meaning and purpose. A daily experience that brought the most amazing people into my reality...each and every day. A life where even when things were feeling a bit icky, I could still find the silliest little things to be happy about, grateful for, or content in.
The best part of all is that I can choose to be happy NOW! I can choose to find something almost at every moment to be happy about. I don't have to have all my wants to be experiencing the joy in this life. And when the good stuff shows up, I am less likely to be falling back down into the want of the next thing on the list and more apt to be enjoying the gift of the moment...no matter what has come to be a part of this life.
I find that I can enjoy my friends no matter what we are doing or even if its just doing nothing. I dont have to have an agenda or a plan at every moment to feel fulfilled. I don't have to have all my puzzle pieces on the table before I can believe that the picture will one day come together. I don;t have to have anything, anyone or any more than what I have right now to be completely blissful in the life that is mine.
I dont practice sympathy for myself or others, beccause I understand the attractive component of that emotion as well. I will empathize, but I can never feel sad enough for you to feel better, sick enough for you to be well or damaged enough for you to be healed. I do not have the ability to attract anything to your life, but I can bring my joy. I can't fix your problems but I can tell you that no problem exists unless the answer is already available.
I know it's hard to see this as true. I remember having those moments where I was not sure why I had been born, or even if I wanted to continue the journey. But that thought and many of those others left me years ago, and has yet to ever even make a mention in my daily thought process. I choose to live each moment of the gift, lesson, joy, fun that it is. And if the moments are leaning towards the lessor side of happy, I acknowledge the feeling, but look for something, anything, to feel better about. That is all it takes.
Some examples of finding anything to feel better about include seeing someon having and emotional meltdown and being grateful it wasnt me. Getting headed towards work and being grateful for a green light. Saying Merry Christmas to the road rage driver that I could have just as easily stepped into the rage he was sharing and carried that around for the rest of the day. Forgiving any of those I have attracted that show up to show me who I dont want to be or act like. Grateful for the penny that I find in the parking lot that reminds me the world is an abundant place. The kind people at work, online or even at the grocery store who smile as tell another part of my story.
It doesnt help to be bitter at life, or the situations that you are living. Find some way to see that all the while you have been living on purpose....even if you didn't mean to. Even though you might not understand how all the good, or bad seems to show up....rest assured you can understand it from now on. I have often heard it takes six weeks to change a habit. So give it six weeks, pretend that I am right, that if every day you committ to write down the things you can find to be grateful for, that you take responsibility for your life...every part of it, and you begin to tell the better feeling story, even if it doesn't feel like you can feel better. Just try....send me your journal, tell me your story, share with me even the littlest thing to be grateful for. I will be your sounding board, and your redirector. I will share with you what worked for me to move past a life of negative, blaming misery. If after 6 weeks it's not better, then you can blame me....I will know better ane you will too...but I will take the blame and you can go back to the way it is. But if I am right...and it changes things for the better in your reality, then I charge you with the same task that Tim gave me...pay it forward. Share with others how their life too can be the one that they are creating for the good...it really is that simple, to live on purpose, taking responsibility and attracting joy.
If we decide to live "on purpose" nothing ever just happens to us. We are directing our lives, constructing our futures, creating with our thoughts. It's time to sit down and figure out what my purpose is, and be on purpose in every moment. I am responsible for where my life is, where it will go and where I will end up.
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