Yeah...Im talking about you...SO WHAT??!!

A few days ago, I posted a status on facebook about friendships and how being friends with people who challenge you to be a better person are the friendships that honor life. One of my friends seemed to have a hard time taking the compliment that I have shared about those people in my life, so I just felt the need to share a little about the people who grace my life....

Shana-talented, generous, forgiving, tenacious, strong (Im not saying she was the one doubting the fact that she is a good friend---but you can decide for yourself)


There is little fluff when it comes to being in the world with Shana, she does not blow sunshine up (fill in the word you prefer)...but she is never unkind...even sometimes a little kinder than the situation requires. But in this talent she reminds me to be a little softer around the edges. I am a little bit jealous of Shana, cause the girl can sing a song, and when she is done, I would rather hear her sing it than the artist who originally sang it. Shanas life has had challenges larger than many of us ever face, but watching her learn to cope has taught me so much.


Kerry-helpful, a volunteers spirit, a grizzly bear of a mother, honest, forgiving, generous


Her ability to find a way to give, even when she herself is in need is inspirational. She does not allow others to take advantage of those she cares about, but sometimes lets some abuse her generosity. But she also can set a boundary when even her kindness is used up. She is a grizzly bear if you come to slight one of her children. She also has an ability to see to the heart of people...even when they are good at looking ok on the outside, and hiding something darker from the naked eye.

Christina-everyones best friend...kind, generous, a great hostess, lover of fun,

Since the day that she and I met, I have never thought of her as anything but a friend. She never gives up anyone, until they prove to not be worthy. And even then she grieves for the loss of someone she cared about. She is diplomatic in all her relationships. She allows others to feel however they choose, but also always defends those she cares about on their good points and forgiving their humaness.

Jentry-witty, gifted, great mom, talented, intelligent.

She has the ability to connect thoughts to every situation that helps others to see things in a new way. Her witt difuses uncomfortable moments or creates them depending on what is needed at any given moment. She does not shy way from her truth and expects so much from the love of her children. Jentry is quick to smile and share her humor....I have never worried about where I stood with Jentry, all I need to do is look at her face and I can see her love and respect for me as well as all those in her life.

Krista-perfectionist, amazing mother, beautiful inside and out, funny, great hostess,

Sometimes as I watch her live her moments with those she loves, I see a spirit almost too large to live in the tiny little body she flutters around in. Her mind is sharp and I think some neglect to see her intelligence because they think of her as a pretty little thing, but do not discount her ability to see fairness, or her understanding of fighting for what is right. She has an innate compass of fairness and justice. She never shys away from her feelings or her beliefs. She sometimes is too hard on herself but as she moves closer to the potential of her greatness as the woman she is, she sees more and more about to appreciate herself. Her perfectionism can be a asset and a liability, but she is learning which is better to focus on.

Stacey-fun, exciting, laid back, honest, pure Energy.

As I see more and more of Stace revealed in her posts on facebook , I realize more and more how much I like her. She has an ability to encourage at a moments notice for someone in doubt or need. She seems to not be flustered by any truth of her life nor stalled by it. She knows where she wants to go and goes in that direction with gusto, but in a calmness that barely gives a hint of the little storm that she is. Beauty sparkles in each photo that catches her being still enough to be photographed.

Amy-a gentle spirit, loving heart, readily able to see and appreciate joy, fun and love those who are in her life.

Amy is just cuteness, I can never look at that sweet face and not smile. She always has a look of excitement when she sees those she cares about. I never worry about Amy's friendship...she has a talent at friendship and keeps and holds her friends near to her always.

Jen-Calm, lover of fun, aprreciates others,

I have never seen Jen get upset about anything. Whenever she seems to be dealing with a situation it is only because I can feel a difference in her mood in the very slightest of ways. She may calmly sit while drama is going on, but she is just taking it all in stride. She has her direction firm in her own mind and god forbid whomever wants to sway her to the darkside...she is confident in being herself and happy with her choices in life.

Joy-is a joy, enthusiastic, and a fun finder, and her name is perfectly suited to her personality.

It has never failed to be a moment that I remember when seeing Joy...she has the ability to make a person see joy when she welcomes you or greets you when she arrives. She makes the space she is in full of joy and it becomes tangible...something that everyone can feel. She is funny and can make a face that will make you smile even if you dont feel like it.

Leslie-gracious, kind and a master at giving compliments.

On numerous occassions when Les has been introducing me to someone she knows, she has not only shared with the other person my name, she heaps on compliments me and about every person she feels has great traits, almost to the point that it is embarrassing but wonderful if its your turn for one of her introductions. She is hospitable always opening her home for people to gather and have fun. She also has a knack for decorating that is magazine cover ready...you should see her house at Christmas.

April-sweet, positive, kind and optimistic

No matter who she is talking about she always finds a way to make it a positive conversation, right down to her ex husband...I have a little trouble doing this, but would love to be more like April when I grow up. She has talent that is only overshadowed by her ability to remain humble. And lets just face it every conversation is just sweet...from her words of encouragement or positive outlook, I always come away feeling a little better about being me after spending time with April.

I have more friends in my circle and hope to one day share what about each what makes their life an asset in mine...to say I am blessed is truely an understatement. I think the biggest compliment I can give is that each makes me want to be a better person so I can be deserving of their friendship. So yeah---Im talking about you---SO WHAT????


Krista Ritter wow, you made me cry. I love how observant you are, and the perspective and opinion that you've chosen to share about everyone warms my heart. You are such a truly beautiful person and I love that you've taken the time out of your day to express your thoughts about all of us. We are the lucky ones to have a friend like you around, to bring out the best in us. I love you Pamn, and thank you so much for your words. It means a lot to me.
Yesterday at 2:02pm · LikeUnlike.Mary Fugitt Now you know I read wht you write and most of the time comment but darn I miss a few days and feel like I missed a month...lol I love you kid,hang in there it Will Get Better!!
Yesterday at 3:02pm · LikeUnlike.April Ryan I love u my pam a lam! You are one of the nicest people ever and I am grateful to have u in my life! That was one of the nicest things some one has said about me it was so sweet!

Shana Duty WOW....Ok my turn.
Pam-From the moment we met I knew there was something special about you. I will never forget that night, sitting at Lil bit. We just started talking and you listened to everything I had to say, which just spilled out of ...me. Instantly I knew you would be in my life forever. I have told you over and over again that I have never had a true friend in all my life until you came along. I know without a doubt that God put you in my life for a reason. You are correct...I am hard on myself and I dont see the good in me like you do. However you never allow me to put myself down whenever we are together or we are just talking. You have always been their with a shoulder to cry on whenever or whatever time it is. No matter what I do or how I act you never judge me but continue to love me as a true friend does. You have a generous heart and you give unselfishly. I admire you and all that you stand for. I strive to be like you when I grow up.
You are truly my best friend and I thank God every day for bringing you into my life.

Amy Brookshire Awww that made me cry. I love you Pam and you have hit the nail on the head.


Christina Miller Mikeska Wow, Pammee, you know me so well. you are so right baout all that you said, I love you so much, you are such an amazing woman, in every way. Beautiful, funny, sweet, caring, loveable, you light up a room when you walk into it, with your smi...le~! Your laugh is one of the cutest things EVER and you know how to treat people, even when they have upset you and hurt you, you manage to still have a smile on your face, and always be positive. I am trying to learn from you, because I think you are one great woman to look up to! Thank you for being in my life! I love you~!

Jentry Wells so like always im a page behind the rest of you...lol im always waiting on the pop-up book to come out... here it is sunday and im just now seeing what Pam posted... as you all know it takes alot to shut me up and today Pam did just that...... have you ever stumbled accross something and thought it was great at the time but later realized its not only great but something you cant live without...well thats what happened when i met Pam... your AWESOME! you have a funny way about you that makes me smile inside and out... and if im half the grandma you are im going to do just fine...i love you.