Question-she asks "How are you able to be happy everytime I see you?"

My answer...

We will always have people in our lives who will change our mood by bringing the yuckiness into our reality--but know this--you can choose to turn your focus at that moment when you feel their influence on your feelings!! Try this--- Keep a list of those people who bring joy into your life--write their names on a piece of paper, or index card--you can even list a few words that describe their influence on your life. At the moment the yuckies show up, pull out your list and focus on those who truly love you--turn away from the bad feeling and just focus on the love. Call, text or email one of those precious people on your list. The first reaction that we almost always have is to talk about the bad feelings, about that person who we dislike and that's ok, but don't give your energy away by giving those feelings or people emotional food. You are allowing them to grow and multiply---STOP giving the yuckies any more of your minutes--spend your life account on those people who add to your energy not those who take from it!

My past included a degree as a people pleaser with a minor in doormat. I did not have a voice nor did I know I needed one. It took many years of experience and unhappiness before someone shared with me that it was my fault! I am responsible for my life contents--all my choices have landed me where I am.

Everyday is full of opportunities to put my focus on those things I want, the people who bring smiles with them, and what I want my life to be! I had to say goodbye to some--but I still wish them to find out what I already know--that life was meant to be a joy. I wish this for all those I care about!

I am thankful everyday for those teachers who gave me the gift of understanding---Tim, Mimi and Esther--thank you!!
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