We are smiling, have everything we need and surrounded by people we love. Meaningful or productive work, respect from those who admire and on and on.
For this moment in time we are happy. We are comfortable and ok...but then, it happens. Someone makes a new rule at work, the company closes or sells out, someone exits from our circle. A new update happens to the program that we just finally figured out how to be good at it. The shampoo we love stops being at our favorite store. The radio station that we have listened to forever suddenly has a dj and music that is not even in our language.
It is called change. Now I could say something profound here like==get over it. But I don't think that really gives this lesson or the folks who read my blog enough credit for how traumatic change can be.
But the gist of it is this...if you can learn to adapt to change you will live a life that will resemble the peace you hear about from those who have met the challenge.
“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.”
― John F. Kennedy
As we have we found ourselves in the midst of many uncomfortable changes so many are screaming, but the way it has always been..., and they are clinging to what it is they believe that they must have remain the same to have their comfort, their happiness, their joy.
Is it not true that no matter where a person lives, even in the worlds most poorest country, if you were to travel there you could find people who were experiencing joy?
Of course you could, humans are spectacular at seeking out and creating joy. Our ability to find humor in the tragedy of life, to cling to the memories of happiness before our changes and the inspiration to seek change when we are not in comfort assures that no matter what our path, or tragedy in life we can find joy.
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
― Wayne W. Dyer
It is also true that we can take any situation that we are faced with and find our smile....I often challenge myself to find it on my hardest of days. I always do. This simple trick of changing the way I see the crazy long line at the grocery store when I am already late for where I need to be, has relieved stress, brought smiles and started some funny conversations from the others in line with me.
The aggravation I feel when someone has taken words, thoughts or even actions that were mine and used them for their own has flipped into a moment of understanding that I was an unplanned gifter. I understand that allowing the drama to slip out of the situation has also taught me that those who would take do not deserve to be in my circle. I would never knowingly do that to someone else. I have even been accused of giving away too much credit to others. But I appreciate inspiration, hard work and sharing...so there you go. It is a bit of a mind game at first, and I still have work errr or change to go. I still have moments where the anger hits me upside the head, and I have work through to the change of how I see the event.
“Change is the end result of all true learning.”
― Leo Buscaglia
So I have learned how to cultivate peace, how to accept those who have yet to learn and how to forgive the necessary changes in myself and others. I have often been known to quip at someone who is angry about some change that well maybe we should all just go back to using outdoor toilets, because we all know how difficult that change was. Or how about lights, phones, televised anything vs. radios? What about the return to snail mail, life before cell phones or the infamous debit card? These are all changes that have happened that we for the most part enjoy, but I bet in the midst of the change and maybe even today there are folks that resist it.
“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.”
― Winston S. Churchill
That is all!
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