Counting down the 12 biggest lessons for 2012-

#12-That which we focus on grows bigger.

Does it ever seem like the more you focus on worries, troubles, mistakes, the more they seem to bother, happen and linger on? It's because we have been designed to be wonderful creative beings. When we focus on something it increases!

Try this in 2013--for every bad thing that happens, find 3 things you can be grateful for because of it.
It's not easy, and it's a bit of a mind trick, but once you start this process for any and all troubles, you begin to focus on the lesson, the better you get at seeing that all things are to the good, and then there is more good.

I started out the year focused on relationships that seemed to be ending, there were issues and friction almost constantly. When I switched my focus to what these challenges were teaching me(ie remove myself from the poor me/victim/nobody likes me role) the transitions became easy and less traumatic and I was able to say goodbye to those who were only adding struggles and no positives to my life.

Sidenote-this does not mean that we turn off the feelings for loss, anger or sadness. It simply means we acknowledge what is and accept it as the next step to what is next. Feelings are meant to be temporary markers to life events...not baskets we carry worries in for the rest of our lives.