Painting myself into a corner

It's always good to ask ourselves why?

Why do we believe the way we do-
Why do we refuse to change what is not working-
Why do we allow others to hurt or continue damage in our lives-
Why do we fear that which could bring us peace-

My lesson for today is to not accept anything as status quo. If anything is feeling troublesome, making me anxious or just irritating me, it's time to ask myself why.

When we do accept it as our lot in life, the pain we deserve or accept that we are being punished,we then decide and choose what we have always done and we choose to stay stuck in our yesterdays.

Think of it like this...always picking the same thing is like painting yourself into a corner...because that's how you have always painted the floor.

Many years ago my mentor made a suggestion, he felt like I was holding on to too many "but I have always dones" and it was time to break some of those routine actions, thoughts and beliefs to help me move forward a bit more in my life class.

It was amazing! Things as simple as how I brushed my teeth and changing which hand I used and which side I started on to the time of day I brushed them started opening up little cracks in the hard line brain function.

I began to question so many of my habits and why I had them. I started to see how so much of my programming was not even from some conscious decision but rather some part of a tape I never remember recording. It was like getting a ctrl/alt/delete to my hard drive.

It was a simple exercise that I started applying to all areas of my life. I then was listening to a speaker and he relayed story about trapping ourselves by our repetitive thoughts and behaviors. I started thinking about changing more and more and felt as if I was growing by leaps and bounds. I began to put aside all the things I thought I was sure of and reexamine all those beliefs until I could find the answers for me and my life path. It was an altering like no other thing in my life had ever brought. I could literally feel changes happening in my happiness levels, my ability to feel joy and most importantly could open my mind to understand so much more about universal forces and the real workings of life.

I won't tell you it was easy, in fact it was one of the hardest times in my life. It also sent me down a path that brought much more heart ache and losses. But no thing ever taken away ever leaves a space not filled. It allowed spaces in my heart, my thoughts and my beliefs to be filled with things that rang true for me...not just what others told me. It allowed me to develop a type of lie detector. For some reason when you go searching for your personal answers and reconcile so many of the unanswered things, life kinda gives you gifts in return.

The gift of insight. I can often see a decision and the outcome almost at the same time. It removes the anxiety because there is a knowing and even if I am not sure I have also learned that no problem comes to us without their being an answer or skills to deal with the changes the upset it brings.

The gift of honesty. One of my most favorites is not only being able to live within honesty, it gives me an uncanny sense that helps me discern the honesty in other situations. My red flags go off and while I may never be sure, many times the truth is revealed and I get to see how close to right my instincts were.

The loss of fear. This is a big gift! If you don't think fear can be a damaging fact of life, just try and think of one or more things that makes you feel fearful. How many times to you sit and find a worry spot over something that might happen, but often it doesn't. Likewise how many times have you used your fearful thoughts to help create the thing you most feared would happen. This is not some strange occurrence. We are each capable with our thoughts to help bring about situations in our lives that give us opportunities to choose the path we want. We can help these things along with joy or fear...whichever we choose. Losing fear means that one understands the frailness of life, and all the things that can go wrong, but instead of allowing fear to direct my life and my thoughts I seek to see the good in all things even to some degree losing the words right and wrong, good or bad and just relying on being in the now and what is, is what is. It holds no connotation. Everything is just and opportunity to solve the next puzzle, enjoy the next adventure and come to the understanding that this human life has an expiration date. The end.

Finally the loss of regrets. Finding that each situation in my life was in some way created by me, for me, allows me to always see that I could have made better choices. I am able at any given moment to step away from someone creating harm or drama in my life, and say this is not for me. This lesson has already been learned and I choose to step away while you play in it all you want. I do not make the choice with anger or any emotion. It is simply my decision to find peace, even if I have to move in a direction those who do not see the value in this lifestyle cannot or will not follow.

Life was not designed to be a path of temptations, tribulations and trials. It was meant to give us the opportunity to be fully alive and seek the path of happy, joyful, loving moments. Understanding that our choices can bring the other stuff, but giving it no more credence than any of the other emotions, it just a momentary change in our emotional state and does not have to be a life long suffering, if we recognize it, feel it, understand how we helped to create it and then find the path away from it and back to our heart smile.

Getting out in front of our pains and problems is not magic, although it can sometimes feel a bit like it is. It simply means that when you are faced with any choice you do a bit of self awareness...ask a few questions and then move forward. You get to decide what those questions are, and how you answer them. I could give you my list, but then, they are the questions that work for me. They have come to be my math questions to get the answers that I want in life. Do all the choices I am making life = Peace-Joy-Happy and if not...what can I choose instead so my answer it what I want?

There is no have-to in this process. The truth of it is as I see it that when the last breath has left your physical self you will get all the answers. You will be able to see the choices, learn from the pain and see another way to paint your floor. You will wake up in the spiritual ever after and say one of two things..."Well shoot--that could have gone better" or "So glad I figured that all out". Either way God Lives through us as us...quoting Eat,Pray,Love. I believe this to be true because I feel the presence daily, and I found a better way to paint my floor.